我们说好的爱情呢？

“我们勾勾手指，答应彼此会相爱到白头，誓死不离。”
“我们的爱只专属于你我，不会有任何人能拆散我们。”
“今日，是苍天眷顾于我们，让我们彼此的等待，成为爱。”
“我答应你我只爱你一个，直到我们手牵手步入教堂，
  直到我们头发都白了，我依然只牵着你的手。”

以上的话，想必恋爱的人必定有说过，
而当然，以上的台词也不只是单单如此。
爱情，人们总觉得爱情是甜蜜的。
那些天长地久，海枯石烂的诺言，
让言说者把爱情弄得天花乱坠，灌迷药给当局者服下。

这道迷药杀伤力可不小，轻者只是哭断肠，
重者皆可能连命都不要了。
当然，中间的包括失眠，没胃口吃饭，
日有所思，夜有所梦，让当局者认为世界已末日。

世道说：“问世间情为何物？”这可问倒了许多的文学家。
许多尝试写书讲道爱情的奥妙，但没一人能透彻的说明爱情。
爱情，把人的心，魂与情绪都撤进去。
像一个搅碎机，搅阿搅，心揪了，魂没了，情绪也乱了。

别把简单的爱情弄得那么复杂。
爱情其实还蛮简单，只需信任，沟通，尊重。
这三个灵药三管齐下，那爱情就会滋润成长。
只要有一丝的猜疑，而又把那猜疑闷在心里，那必成心病。

简单的爱情是很纯洁的，有如小孩般的天真无邪与单纯。
不要猜疑，只要信任；不要沉默，尝试沟通；
不要过分放纵，不要藐视轻蔑，应要尊重。

爱情不是光靠说的，而是得用行动来表示。
科技的发展，让人话变少了，行动就更加稀有。
爱情是心魂情的构造，跟科技扯不上关系。
少些手机，多些接触；少些屏幕，多些眼神交会；
少些网聊，多些沟通，那“我们说好的爱情呢？”，就会有完美的结局。

等。

 

PS: 启发来自 “等一个人咖啡” 的其一歌曲 “咖啡在等一个人”。

 

等着雨过天晴，等着那雨后七彩的彩虹，或是等着那祈求已久的雨天。

等着迟迟未来的巴士或地铁，或是就是等着那还没出现的人。。。

 

这世界上，每一个人都在等一个人。等着他或她的出现，祈求天赐良机，好让自己别再等下去。或许人性缺乏耐性，有些事，我们就是等不及，就是希望能快些得到。

 

等，非常奥妙。有听说过 “守得云开见月明” 这句话吗？其实等着人，事，物，的那个过程蕴含着那在等的人的坚持与恒心。科技的发达，让人快了脚步，慢了心跳，变得不耐烦，对周遭都带着一种 “自扫门前雪” 的态度。虽说，不耐烦地等，也是在等，但心态却与在静静等待的人差了十万八千里。 也许，人就觉得岁月不留人，不想浪费这一点一滴的时间慢慢地等着，心里不知结果如何，忐忑不安。越快知道，就不需要再费任何时间与心思在那事上。

 

相反的，我认为年纪大了，却越有耐心去等。生命就是那么讽刺，那么令人啼笑皆非。人到了一个阶段，能说是少了那股年少的力量，不会随意横冲直撞，也多了人生经验，凡事尽量带着旁观者的心态与眼睛来面对任何事物，以便能看清当局在发生的事。人常说 “苍天有眼”，必定会让有心者，如愿以偿。这，我一定不会推翻，并且双手举高赞同。

 

等一等，虽然时光不能回头，但那整个过程，可以是那么的丰富，让在等的人受益不浅。也许，有些事的发生与否，在于那个在等的人，是否愿意继续静静地等下去。虽说人能有几个十年 （打个比喻）地等着，青春已不存在，但是那经历过的过程，却是量身定做专属那个愿意等的人。不知道结局又如何，只要等，耐心地等，过程或许会比结局更加多姿。

 

 

因为完美的结局，只是为了那些愿意，且不会不耐烦等的人，而绘画出来的。

“等” 是一名画家，而它的彩色，就是我们。选择色彩缤纷，还是黯淡潦倒在于我们自己。

我会选择等，因为我相信那会是值得的。

如果时光能够倒流。。。

是否曾有想回到过去的念头？
“想说，如果回到了过去，我就不会犯同样的错。” - 或似乎同类的感想。。。

还是会有这样的感想 。。。
“如果能回到过去，我就会把我那时没说的话，但超想对她说的话，给说出来。”

我们都是时光的傀儡，偶尔被它玩弄在手中，不幸运的的话，哈哈，我也就不必多说了。
周杰伦唱出了 《回到过去》，唱出了很多痴情男女的心声。
“想回到过去，试着让故事继续，至少不会让你离我而去。。。”
多悲呀，多伤感呀。。。

有时候，回到过去或者不是个好的选择。
你是否还能面对同样的失败？或者接受更惨痛的结局？
当然，话别说的那么糟，因为没人知道结果会是如何。
你可以很乐观，但人生有时就爱玩弄那些乐观的人，让他们尝尝堕落的滋味。

有时候，我们就是好奇，想说 “如果真的回到过去，做了不敢做的事，结局会是如何？”
人嘛，就是喜欢知道结局。打个简单的例子，有些人读书时，会翻到未页看看结局，害怕自己没法把整本书给读完。你是否也是这一类的人呢？
翻读结局未曾是件坏事，只是当你知道了结局，又如何？
如果不是你想要的结局，你是否能够坦荡荡地接受那个不是你梦想结局的结局？
事物中的问号，让你对于面对真相也感到一些些的胆怯。

唉，残忍的时光，我们的主人。。。
我也曾希望时光能够倒流，让我弥补我的过错，做个更好的人。
但想了一想，就觉得时光让我长见，让我学习到了人生的生活道德。
所谓 “吃一堑，长一智”，我历生的经验，是任何金钱也买不来的。

时光倒流，你是否还是执着在那咬牙切齿的过去？
“往事只能回味” - 这个歌唱得再恰当不了。
或许选择放弃你那从前的悔意，你能够得到你要的解脱。。。

Does 1 + 1 = 2 in every situation?

Does logic really work in every situation?
Should emotions and senses be factored in situation disintegrating?

In my opinion, though logic is the basis for most problem solving, but those problem solving are usually matters related to the non-living, that is to say, humans aren't involved in that equation.

 

Humans are complicated to begin with, and with all the hormones, emotions, thoughts et cetera, it can almost equate to a nuclear bomb. Yeah, you didn't read wrongly, "bomb". How many a times when someone just flare up at you for nothing, or show you his "you-owe-me-a-million-dollars" attitude just out of the blue? Well, you didn't do anything to offend or piss that person off though.

 

I will not say that I've been through so much complicated matters that I could write a book titled "The Complicated Life of Daniel". But what I've been through is good enough to mess up my life for a good period of time, and yes, logic is like a douchebag during those moments. It doesn't help and it just complicate things even more.

 

Complicated and messy life, but life goes on. Haven't you heard enough of that cliche statement which goes like "Time waits for no man (or woman)."? To a certain hateful extent, that statement kinda burns when one sets him/herself into a downward spiral EMO-sensation. It's like the time is saying "Well, go on with your self-pity, nobody cares, not even those whom you think are closest to you." Ouch? Yes. Painful? Yes. Feeling ridiculed at? Absolutely.

 

Logic, like I mentioned earlier, can be a douchebag in sensitive and touchy issues. Emotions and senses doesn't seem to be any much better either. As a matter of fact, once you roll in these two mates, they're just gonna stir s*** up in the inside of you and make things far more worst when you introduced "Logic" to your innerman.

 

Perhaps, I'm just thinking far too much and deep in many situations. Perhaps, I should just "let nature take its course" and be laidback, while waiting for things to unfold before my very eyes. Perhaps, just perhaps.

 

Logic, emotions, senses, please, let my tired soul rest just a little while.

Have you ever wondered...

The picture says it all. And I fall victim to it, not once, nor twice, but countless times.

When we have those words at the tip of the tongue, we will tend to hold back at that very last minute, just because the following questions 'pop' up in the brain:
1. What will he/she think if I said this? Can I accept his/her reaction to it?
2. Will those words be too mean/harsh? Will I hurt his/her feelings?
3. Will I sound stupid if I just blurt everything out without any filtering?

And at the end, we will just be thinking and be like "Well, let's keep this to another time. Perhaps it's just not the time yet..."

"Not the time yet..." - Again and again, this phrase makes victim out of many of us. Perhaps not many of us, perhaps, only me... Yes, I mentioned about Carpe Diem, about siezing the moment, however, being a do-er is always more challenging than the one who only speaks.

"Speak faith into that vision and it will soon turn into action." I've never doubted this, and I can vaguely remember where did I hear this from (Bible School perhaps?). Action is a very big word, as defined by www.dictionary.com, which is "an act that one consciously wills and that may be characterized by physical or mental activity."

Just two quotes which I personally favorite:

• Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. - Napoleon Hill
• Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. - Plato

Words have such impact on the human minds, that it can either encourage or inhibit growth. And usually people with high EQ (emotional intelligence) encourage growth more than inhibiting it, as they are rather sensitive in their words used on others.

Well, at the very end, some things in life just cannot be rushed to get the results which one desired. As a Chinese proverb that goes "欲速则不达", which means haste makes waste, it is necessary that one have patience and not speak anything that just come to your mind.

Keep Calm and don't be gan jiong (anxious in Hokkien)...

心目中的女神

 

嘿，别那么快裁决我呀。。。！

对，心目中的女神，每一个人都有他那标准的女神。而既然身为雄性的我，谈谈女神是最恰当的啦。。。！（当然，对女生，她们也有心目中的男性！）

说到标准，怎样才算是合格的标准呢？
打个比方，自己如果在10分里，给自己打6分 （或是朋友给你打6分），你不可能高攀一个10分的女神。当然自己得做做自我检讨，不能对自己太过放纵，也不要对自己太过苛刻。

攀得太高会有反效果，其一为自己得改变许多来迁就对方，其二为没足够的意志力来坚持那份改变的热诚。如果搭上了一位比自己还要低分数的女生，也不好强逼对方为你做出许多的改变，因为这带有那自私的行为。爱一个人，不是要对方改变成你所想要的人，而是包容对方的缺陷。试回想一下为何当时会选择她，而不是别人。

男人，不要犯下全天下男人都会犯的错 - 那就是以貌‘娶’人。
外表往往是第一的出发点，但别忘了外表随着时间会老化，而人心随着时间的摧残，都依然不变。多花一些时间，多费一些心思了解你的女神，而我不是说以偷窥或跟踪 （俗称 stalking）式去了解她喔~ 采取不健康的方式去了解你的女神会带来极恶的反效果。

了解一个人，需要沟通。你能了解一个素不相识的人吗？即使你是心理医生，或是看相的，你也没那如神般的本事，一见就明。沟通是需要时间的；沟通是得放心思去听对方所说的话，看对方的身体语言，想对方的思想构造。沟通，如果是你所认为表面讲讲话，吃顿饭的话，那你还真肤浅呀。。。

对了，也不要相逢恨晚，因为全都是天注定的啦。（哈哈！）

遇到你那心目中的女神，往往会有一些 “病症”，例如：
1。会对自己傻笑，有如心花怒放的仪态。
2。会渴望见到对方，因为日子再过差，只要能一日见到女神，所有的烦恼都会自然而然地抛到九霄云外。
3。会想展现出自己最好的一面，不失仪态。

这些只是冰山棱角的病症，如果要聊下去，我想明天都聊不完。
但如果就那么被上天怜惜，把你们俩撮合在一起，那维持这段恋情，就得保持这份 “病症”。因为这些 “病症”，你带有了仰慕与爱，而这俩能将恋情维持到海枯石烂。

 

对了，当彼此坠入了爱河，别忘了发掘彼此爱的语言 （俗称 love language，而它的五大区域为 Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch。做个测验来查看自己爱的语言 http://www.5lovelanguages.com/），因为当你知道她爱的语言，你们彼此的恋爱会更上一层！！

Moments...

I suppose there were moments when you wake up and you have such a thought in your mind - wanting to live today to the fullest, being all excited, hyped up and ready to go.

Such adrenaline rush, such vigor...

However, moments in life ain't just about the ups, as there's a saying which goes "Whatever goes up, must come down.", and being a Science educator, the Newton's Law of Universal Gravitation (allow me to 'try' to link it) also states as such.

Valleys of life - nobody likes those, and nobody will like to experience much of those either. Having said so, the law of nature hardly bless one to live a peaceful and smooth life.

Enjoy the happy moments, and learn from the valley moments. A simple statement, however difficult to master it. Humans being humans, valley moments will usually affect us, and the duration of it differs for each individual.

Carpe Diem - Sieze the day, sieze the moment. A new semester awaits before me, however, I'm not even abit enthusiastic about it. Can that good moment sieze me though...?